Believing is Seeing
And not the other way around | GR No 110
Included in today’s Gentle Reminder:
A no BS 3-step process to change any belief (and transform your life from the core)
What to expect (pros and cons) from changing a belief
Today’s Gentle Reminder is a reflection on the single most life-changing thing I’ve ever done to shift the trajectory of my life: actively changing a core belief.
May this one inspire you forward.
Dear friend,
If I were to be completely honest with both me and you, I’d confess that the biggest self-induced transformations I’ve ever gone through in life have happened as a result of one thing and one thing only: a decisive change in one or more of my core beliefs. That’s it. Not easy, but that simple.
It wasn’t another person who transformed my life. It wasn’t a new piece of information that I learned either. The single biggest lever I have pulled to drastically shift the trajectory of my life has come to changing core beliefs.
That’s because a shift in belief implies a shift in the reality you experience.
And no, it’s not easy (at first). The first time you do, I admit, it’s a Herculean task. Because this implies being willing to part ways with your previous sense of reality (and ego); some of the things we held on to most of our life will not survive a change of beliefs. And that’s the point. They’re not supposed to.
I’ll give you a very real example of what I mean by this: my fitness.
Not many people know this, but for most of my life I had insecurities around my body; the excess fat and lack of muscle. As a heterosexual man, I had never experienced what it felt like to live inside a masculine physique. A body I felt strong in. A body that I could trust to carry a loved one on my back if I ever needed to.
For over 30 years of my life, I felt like I was living in a body that didn’t belong to me. A meat-puppet I just had to live encased in.
The worst part was that this messed with my sense of identity & worth; I didn’t feel strong enough, masculine enough or attractive enough for myself (let alone for others).
But get this: I never did anything about it.
It wasn’t because I didn’t want to. I mean, in theory, OF COURSE I wanted to look good and feel good—DUH!
But here’s the truth that took me years to acknowledge and accept:
deep down, it was because I didn’t believe that I deserved it...
I didn’t feel like I was worthy of living in a body that I loved. And, worse, I had repeated the same story around this issue that I had already accepted it as my fate:
“I come from a family who is just obese in nature - it’s in our genes.”
“Nobody in my family has ever been fit, why would I be the exception?”
“It’s just impossible or too late for me to even start since I haven’t done it already.”
That’s why I saw getting fit as simply impossible: “Why bother,” you know?
But something happened a couple of years ago that shifted my paradigm and the trajectory of my health:
I was looking at myself in the mirror and I got to glimpse behind my self-judgement & simply wondered:
“What if it WAS actually possible for me?… What if I could get to see my abs in my lifetime?”
This innocent thought SHOCKED me. I’m not exaggerating. I just never considered it this genuinely before.
And this created a tectonic shift in my consciousness: I began to believe 🌋
That’s it.
I didn’t have to get it all done in one day, one month or even one year. I just had to believe that it was possible in my lifetime.
The results since then have been massive: I’ve gotten to witness what being in a stronger body feels like. I’ve finally understood “gym rat” consciousness—and enjoyed it! I’ve began feeling more attractive internally—way before it manifested externally. My mental & spiritual health amplified as a result.
And it all started with a simple shift of belief.
When I started to believe—truly and deeply—that maybe it was possible for me and that I worthy and deserving of living in a body I felt safe & strong in, I opened up a vortex in my field that would lead me to that very transformation.
People like to parrot the phrase “Seeing is believing.” But that couldn’t be further from the truth: you have to believe FIRST before you begin to see.
Go grab snorkel for this one because we’re going deep 🫧
Below, we’ll be diving into:
🤿 the law of belief
🤿 how to actively change a belief and transform your life (a no BS 3-step process to change any belief)
🤿 the pros and cons from changing a belief (spoiler alert: it’s always worth it)